Sex & Dating

5 Reasons Why You Should NOT Settle For Less

New York Smash Magazine  

BY PROJECT SOULMATE’S LORI ZASLOW AND JENNIFER ZUCHER

CONTRIBUTING WRITER: NICOLE HARTLEY


 

There is a time and a place for settling in life, but relationships is not one of them.

On a typical day, you may settle for a granola bar for breakfast because maybe you didn’t have time to make your favorite breakfast combo of bacon and eggs. Or maybe you settle for the store brand make-up instead of a name brand one.

But why settle when it comes to love? You shouldn’t.

Here are five reasons why:

1. Playing it safe is boring.

We have all talked to or dated someone because it was easy and comfortable and not necessarily because we really like the person. Maybe when things first started, we thought there was hope, but as the relationship continued that spark just seemed to fizzle. It’s okay, it happens. Knowing when to get out is what’s important. It is never a good idea to do something just because it is convenient, so why do many of us end up in relationships just because they are easy and convenient? Because it’s the safe option and we love to play it safe.

2. Don’t settle for your second choice.

We tend to get complacent and don’t bother to look for something better because we like having a safety net. Safety nets can be helpful at times: they are nice to have and they make you feel secure. But let’s face it, they hold you back. The whole reason someone has a safety net is for when their first choice falls through. So, if he isn’t your first choice and you know that you are a bit too “comfortable” or bored in the relationship it’s time to get out because, quite frankly, it isn’t fair to you or to him to keep things going; you both deserve better.

3. There is someone better out there.

Just because you like talking to someone doesn’t mean that you like talking to THAT someone. So this begs the question, why are you wasting your time? If the person you are with isn’t giving you butterflies or doesn’t make you excited to see them, then WHY are you still hanging around? Just because you’re bored? I have news for you, it’s time to put on some big girl shoes and walk out the door and find someone who knocks your socks off! I promise that the person you are meant to be with will be worth the risk of being on your own for a little while. And hey, who doesn’t love an independent woman!

4. It’s time to take hold of your love life.

So, here’s my advice: Know yourself, know what you want, and don’t settle for anything or anyone less! Go big or go home-  don’t settle for talking to a guy that doesn’t make you excited to see/talk to them. It’s time to leave boring and comfortable in its rightful place… behind.

5. You deserve better.

At the end of the day, the most important reason to never settle for love, or quite frankly anything in life, is because you DO deserve better. The moment you realize that settling for an average relationship or an average guy is the wrong decision is the moment you will find what you are looking for. People describe being in love in many ways, but I can assure you average is not one of them. Go find your Mr. Right, you deserve it!